Everything is Figureoutabe by Marie Forleo is a good, funny, and honest book with some very sound advice. Marie Forleo shares how she approaches life and how she followed her dreams to became a successful buisness women. Of course her path wasnt easy, and success wasn’t instant, but she continued to move forward and achieved amazing things.
The main advice she gives is Everything is Figureoutable. There is a story about her mother that inspired this quote that is the premise of what this book teaches. The book is arranged into nine ideas/chapters, that we should all consider. This is some of my favourite advice from her.
The Power of Belief
Marie thinks that what we belive is an important part of who we are. Your belifes and your outlook on life, affect your attitude, your behaviour and therefore the impact your have on the world, and how the world impacts you. So be careful what you think and what you are telling yourself, because our brains try to reinforce what we believe. This is called Confirmation Bias.
So belive in yourself. Everything created started as an idea, that someone acted on.
Nothing exists in our world, that does not first exist in our mind.Everything is Figureoutable by Marie Farloe
Take Responsibility for your Life
Her advice in this chapter is to stop making excuses and take responsibility for our lives. If we don’t do this, we loose the power to change our circumstances. Her philosophy is that “life is 10 percent what happens to us and 90 percent how we react to it.” This includes everything from our behaviour to our thoughts. Most of the excuses we give to not do something, are related to time or money, but these are thing that can be figured out. She has an exercise where she wants everyone to try to make an extra 2 hours in their day. It sounds like a lot, and not possible with our busy lives. To figure out how to get more time, she suggests you write down what you do every second of the day. Is there time you spend on your phone that could be eliminated, time watching tv? If we use this time for more productive work and habits, over time we could get so much done that we didn’t think was possible. When it comes to money, there are options if you are willing. If your dream is to go to school or start a buisness, there are scholarship opportunities. Look into grants, loans, or put money aside each month until you reach your goal.
What else can we do to take more responsibility for our lives? What about being more honest with ourselves and stop saying can’t. A lot of the time when we say we cant do something, it is actually more accurate to say we don’t want to do it. It’s not that you can’t move and take that job across the country, you wont. And that’s ok, but she wants us to be honest with ourselves and own our decisions.
Embrace Your Fear
Marie gives some very good examples of people who learned to face their fears. My favourite story was about a famous mugician. Before every show he experienced what some people would call fear. The butterflies in your stomach, heart pounding, sweating. But instead of seeing this as a reason to be afraid an pull back, he embrases the feelings. He belives it is his body’s way of getting ready for the excitement of a live show.
This story is an example of how we view fear. Its all about perspective, and what you choose to believe. The mind is a powerful thing, and what you tell yourself can make a big difference. She doesn’t think fear should be seen as a negative. It is an emotion like any other, and should be treated as such. It is a natural reaction if we are outside of our comfort zone.
Own the feeling, embrace it, but don’t let it hinder you. This means deciphering your fear, recognizing what you are afraid of and put it into words. She suggests writing it down and coming up with a plan. If you are afraid of a business opportunity because you might loose your money, come up with a approach if that happens. Maybe you need to save up some money first, and then move forward. Or maybe you will have to move to a smaller place, or borrow from someone if the worst happens. Whatever the case, if you have a plan for the worst case scenario, and it might scare you a little less. Trying to eliminate your fear will only leave you stuck, because fear is not something that will go away.
I win or I learn, but I never lose.Everything is Figureoutable by Marie Farloe
What is your Dream?
What are you looking for in life, and what do you want to accomplish? If you have a dream you should define it. Marie says that we are so busy accomplishing tasks that we don’t stop and consider if we are moving in the right direction towards our goals. We should all stop and think about what our destination is. If you need help figuring that out, she has a few exercises that can help. Once you have that destination in mind, she wants us to embrace it, and share it with the world. Once we have our goals figured out, we can prioritize our life and give importance to those things that bring us closer to our goals.
In this chapter, Marie Forleo speaks about something called The Reticular Activating System. It can be described as the way your brain filters information so only the important stuff get in. A good example is when in a loud noisy room, you can’t understand what everyone is saying, but when someone says your name, that always come through clearly. This is why she thinks deciding on your goal, and making it known is so important. Once your brain knows what your goal is, it will deem anything related as important information, and constantly be on the look out for opportunities for you.
Deciding what you want is the first step to getting it.Everything is Figureoutable by Marie Farloe
This chapter focuses on procrastination. Marie wants us to move forward, and start before we are ready. She tells a story from her own life, where she took a job she wasn’t quite ready for. She was managing people who knew more about the business then she did, but she didn’t let that stop her. She took the opportunity to grow and learn, and soon she was she was preforming her job with confidence.
She believes that sometimes procrastination is disguised as research and planning. Instead of moving forward, we wait and spend unnecessary time researching, trying to learn everything we can before we move forwards. This could be driven by fear of the unknown, or thinking that this will make us more prepared for any situation. She suggests that you do the minimum amount of research, and then move forwards. You will always have the opportunity to learn as you go, and situations can be dealt with and researched as they arise. What is her most important piece of advice from this chapter? Get out of your comfort zone, and into the growth zone.
Dont Hold Back, Waiting for Perfection
Continuing from the last point, in order to move forward now, we need to stop striving for perfectionism. I find this advice difficult to follow, especially in the workplace, but I also understand what she is saying. Perfection is not possible, and you are wasting time, trying to achieve it. You don’t want to be stuck on a single task, trying to perfect little details that no one but you would notice. It prevents you from moving forward.
She reminds us that everybody who is at the top of their game started as an amateur. So don’t worry about being perfect from the beginning, focus on progress instead. Remember though, that progress is not a linear road, there will set backs, and failures, but overall as long as you continue growing, you will move forwards.
Marie has some great advice in this book. I felt her advice and stories were more focused on people growing a business, but that doesn’t mean you cant apply them to other aspects of your life. All of her points were enhanced with real life examples from people who are familiar with her and used her advice to succeed. These were really helpful and did a good job of explaining how you could apply them in your life. Nothing in this book was super revolutionary, but it was put together and designed in a manner, that started simple and built up as you moved towards your goals. She ended the book like a proud parent or teacher, telling her students that she believes in them. It is an uplifting ending meant to inspire you to have faith in yourself and your unique talents and abilities.
If you are looking for a book, that will get you up and moving towards your goals, this is a recommended read.